Since writing his breakout book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, at the age of twenty-one, Joshua Harris has enjoyed tremendous publishing success, with total book sales exceeding 2 million copies.
Joshua Harris singlehandedly made the word “courtship” popular in mainstream evangelical circles.
Yesterday I responded to a post another blogger wrote about what she learned from Joshua Harris.
Today I’m following up by discussing what I learned from Joshua Harris.
I don’t own a copy of Harris’ book at the moment, but given that this post is about the almost immediately after it came out.
I was in middle school, just starting to develop and have questions about boys. It was the first thing I read, followed later by makes clear, Joshua Harris is not keen on dating.
Instead of dating, he endorses “biblical courtship.” Now to be fair, Joshua Harris’ definition of courtship is not the same as the ideas put forward by Christian Patriarchy leaders, which stress parental involvement and control.
Rather, for him courtship is “dating with a purpose.” In other words, you shouldn’t start a relationship with someone unless you are actually ready to get married and think the person in question is likely the one you want to marry.
Harris condemns “recreational dating” in no uncertain terms.
Interestingly, conservative evangelical World magazine published an article last year about how Harris has messed up the dating scene for evangelical youth.
As they explained in an article last year, many evangelical young people today are afraid to date.
They avoid asking each other out for fear that a relationship might end in failure and leave them sullied.