Read the following quotation from the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve: “‘Mia Maid girls and teachers … Kimball gave the youth of the Church the following advice: “My beloved young people, you should be serious-minded. When you get in the teenage years, your social associations should still be general acquaintance with both boys and girls.
have many activities of a social nature planned for them, both in their school and Church programs, which they should enjoy in groups. Any dating or pairing off in social contacts should be postponed until at least the age of 16 or older, and even then there should be much judgment used in selections and in the seriousness.
There should be limited contacts and certainly no approach to the intimate relationships involving sex.
There must never be any sex of any kind prior to marriage” (“Marriage—The Proper Way,” “Every boy should have been saving money for his mission and be free from any and all entanglements so he will be worthy. , he should feel free to begin to get acquainted and to date. Through group associations, they become more interesting people.
When he has found the right young woman, there should be a proper temple marriage. Ask class members to explain how it applies to young women also. “‘I see the pre-dating years as a time when the “becoming process” blossoms.
One can have all the blessings if he is in control and takes the experiences in proper turn: first some limited, social, get-acquainted contacts, then his mission, then his courting, then his temple marriage and his schooling and his family, then his life’s work. You may wish to list the young women’s responses on the chalkboard. Girls should have equal satisfaction in the “becoming process” as they have in arriving at a goal.’ … ‘There are so many things for girls to do instead of just waiting [to turn sixteen to date].
In any other sequence he could run into difficulty” (Spencer W. Make sure the following points are mentioned: They acquire self-confidence. [The pre-dating years are a time] when the girl prepares for group activities, for having fun, for maturing, for developing. Girls can reach out, recognize where they are now and enjoy today instead of just waiting for tomorrow to happen’” (Ruth H. “‘There are many wonderful things a girl can be doing other than waiting for a date, like just learning to enjoy people and developing friends, which can be exciting if the girl will let it be that way.
Funk, quoted by Gerry Avant, “Pre-dating Years: A Vital Season,” 3 Dec. “‘A girl who has many friends seems to be the one who will attract even more.
As she enlarges her circle of friends, others will be drawn in.
While she may not be dating, she’ll be sharing experiences, building memories and having fun.
“‘If a girl becomes anxious at times, or impatient about waiting to date, she should remember to talk with her Heavenly Father about the matter.’ “…
The preparation years, which are vitally needed, should not be too soon interrupted by early dating.
‘A girl should handle this time of her life carefully, waiting for the proper season so that when her associations do bring her into a dating pattern then she is prepared to recognize the qualities that she wants to emulate. “‘The pre-dating years, if used properly, can give a girl experiences that will help her develop characteristics that will allow her to be a powerful, positive influence upon others.’ “… “The urge for group activity is normal to the younger set, when they are not prematurely and immaturely stimulated in other ways, and the recreational and social activities of the crowd can be wholesome and entertaining.